Embracing The Single Life
As you flip through the channels on the remote it seems like every TV show and movie you see flashing before your eyes shows the same thing: a story about two people who fall madly in love with one another and live happily ever after. Sure, you may think it’s too good to be true but, in the back of your mind, a little bit of you may also wishes you could be those same people on TV. Or maybe you see your friends having wonderful relationships— that look so perfect on the outside— that it almost seems surreal. Yet you watch from the sideline feeling happy for your friends while hoping one day you could have what they have, constantly thinking: “when will my true happy ending come”?
For many people living the single life can get a bit lonely and frustrating at times, especially after endless efforts of trying to find Mr. or Mrs. Right you may start to lose hope. Whether it may be through online dating, a mutual friend, or associating with people when you go out in public you start to feel like you have tried it all.
When it comes to dating and relationships, it can be an adventure in and of itself: going through the process of meeting new people and trying to find that spark or connection; making sure the person is genuine and not some psycho maniac; knowing you can be yourself around that person and not feeling too awkward if you do something wrong; taking the time to get to know one another from the inside and out so you can build a healthy relationship and even a better friendship with that person. Each piece of the puzzle becomes its own adventure. Each of these are facets and plateaus of dating and relationships that most of us look for and forward to. They’re also why sometimes it is better not to look so hard. The reasons of how fate and why things happen in life is a true mystery. You never know who you’ll meet or who will sweep you off your feet. It’s the continuous suspense of not knowing who you will encounter or where you’ll encounter them that makes dating the most fun.
Despite the fun that comes with the mysteries, the unknowns, and the firsts of dating, there are still lots of people who just want to find there special someone, be in a committed relationship, and have all that comes with having a constant significant other. Despite this common desire, there is, in reality, some light at the end of the tunnel for those who cry the blues about singled: being single and spending time alone is not always a bad thing to begin with. The time that you are not devoting to someone else, you can devote to yourself. It’s time you can work on yourself and learn who you are; time to make sure you are reaching all your goals; time to make a positive impact on your life and the lives of others. The time that you spend by yourself is the time that is most precious. You so often hear people say that “in order to love someone else, you must first learn to love yourself”. It couldn’t be truer. When you know and love yourself you develop into being ready to make that commitment and bring all or nothing to the table when it comes to a relationship.
The more you think about meeting someone, the later it will happen. When the time comes you will meet someone. Someone especially made for you and only you. The key is to allow for time and wait patiently. Running head-long into a relationship you’re not ready for is a surefire way to have it end before it ever really starts. When you love yourself first and everything else will fall into place.