Social Media and Your Feelings
I don’t know about you, but my news feeds are becoming jam packed with irrelevant, half-storied statuses or tweets that are indirectly begging for sympathetic attention. Here are some helpful tips to get yourself or your friends out of this self-loathing rut.
5 Tips to Mindfulness Behaviour Over the Net:
- If you feel the urge to write about something personal on the Web such as a recent breakup, a family related issue or a backstabbing friend, type it out, but don’t press enter. Walk away for 20 minutes and then come back to it. Sometimes irrationality gets the best of us. By the time you return, you most likely won’t want to send it anymore. If you still want to, by all means post it. Just keep in mind who sees this.
- Don’t get yourself involved in Facebook arguments or opinion based rants. If you disagree with something you see, take into consideration that others may disagree as well, and you don’t have to put your two cents in. Sometimes, you feel as though you need to justify something you support or take sides with a friend. Keep it to yourself. You, yourself knows what’s right or wrong, and that’s all that should matter.
- If you are in crucial need of having a meaningful conversation with a friend, your significant other, employer or an acquaintance, refrain from communicating via internet or text message. Use this opportunity to text or message them where to meet you, face-to-face. Conversations that involve emotion are more successful this way. Technology just makes it difficult to gauge feelings, or understand social cues, which results in delusional assumptions and false accusations of the other person. This isn’t healthy for relationships.
- Did you recently go to the best party of your life and want to tell everyone about it? Key Word: discretion. Don’t forget about how easily accessible your information is to the world, and how small the world actually is. I know your life might be super awesome, but your experience isn’t always necessary to share. Let it affect you the way it did, and take advantage of this experience. If you do really want to share, just be careful with whom you expose it to. Photos can be deceiving to others, especially when you are about to be hired.
- Content that you choose to post online reflects your personality more then you may think. Try to keep subjective, controversial and/or negative content to yourself or to a minimum. Users will feel the urge to be just as opinionated as you. And if you’re not looking for an argument, don’t post it.
Overall advice: Find a supportive and non-judgmental friend or family member to discuss internal or external issues with. This will be much more beneficial than expecting any sort of comment from anyone online. Self-expression is awesome, and can be beneficial if you do it in a positive way, but there is a time and place for it. If you have a problem withholding the desire to express yourself negatively online, start a personal journal or a blog. A thing to remember is that online content can be, and is in most cases, permanent, and even stolen or saved.